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Dear Ladies, You are Astoundingly Beautiful Part 4

Dear Ladies, You are Astoundingly Beautiful Part 4

Dear Ladies, You are Astoundingly Beautiful, 

You may have heard these lyrics on the radio,
"She just wants to be beautiful
She goes unnoticed, she knows no limits
She craves attention, she praises an image"
(Caracciolo, Wansel, Tillman, Felder).

Have you?

If you haven't identified it yet, the song is "Scars to Your Beautiful" by Canadian singer and songwriter Alessia Cara. The first time I heard this song I experienced a powerful emotional reaction, it seemed like it was written just for me. I believe this song has generated a similar response in many people's lives which is why I was pleasantly surprised, but maybe not so much surprised, that this song was included as part of the Life.Church Playlist message series.

So it is with this song and message in mind that I present to you my reader and friend Dear Ladies, You are Astoundingly Beautiful Part 4. In Part 1 we talked about the three reasons I think, from personal experience, women do not believe in their true beauty. Part 2 discussed our God-given unique personalities and about discovering our spiritual gifts. And in Part 3 we looked at developing some statements of spiritual truths to fight negative inner dialog. Finally, in Part 4 we will paint a completed picture of how God created you as a beautiful, unequaled, reflection of His glory.

Let's get started.

The First Verse


"She just wants to be beautiful
She goes unnoticed, she knows no limits
She craves attention, she praises an image
She prays to be sculpted by the sculptor
Oh, she don't see the light that's shining
Deeper than the eyes can find it
Maybe we have made her blind
So she tries to cover up her pain and cut her woes away
'Cause cover girls don't cry after their face is made"
(Caracciolo, Wansel, Tillman, Felder).

How many of us have been where the woman in the song is? As we talked about in Part 1, most women if not all women just want to be beautiful, noticed, and given attention. These desires are also mentioned in the book Captivating by Jon and Stasi Eldredge.

“We [women] desire to possess a beauty that is worth pursuing, worth fighting for, a beauty that is core to who we truly are. We want beauty that can be seen; beauty that can be felt; beauty that affects others; a beauty all our own to unveil" (2005, 2010). 

Our hearts crave these things, yet too many times we are left feeling anything but beautiful and sought after. So because of this we may try and cover up our vulnerable side. We may be afraid to leave the house without makeup to hide our "flaws," wear certain clothes to hide insecurities about ourselves and our bodies, or any number of things. We may put on an act so no one can see our pain, our real thoughts, and feelings. And yes, I have felt and done some of this, have you?  

But the fact is that you were "sculpted by the sculptor." Genesis 1:27 states

So God created human beings in his own image. In the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.

Fully understand this, that we that you were created in the image of God and therefore share many of His characteristics including beauty. Feel beautiful because you are as you bear the image of God and you are His sculpture His masterpiece.

The truth dear friend, dear sister is that "God loves you deeply" (Life.Church 2017). He demonstrated His love for each of us that while we were still sinners, God sent His only son Jesus Christ to die for us so that we can be free from the bondage of sin and spend eternity with Him. And your cravings to feel beautiful, sought after, loved, they are fulfilled in a relationship with Jesus.

Yes, there is a "light that's shining." That light is our reflection of Jesus, it is the Holy Spirit dwelling in us. Jesus who is the Light of the World (John 8:12), our Hope (1 Timothy 1:1), our Truth (John 8:32). Do not hide your beautiful light friend, let it shine. 

"You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden; nor does anyone light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on the lampstand, and it gives light to all who are in the house. "Let your light shine before men in such a way that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father who is in heaven. ~ Matthew 5:14-16

Dear sister,  "No beauty shines brighter than Christ in your heart" (Life.Church 2017). 

The Chorus


"But there's a hope that's waiting for you in the dark
You should know you're beautiful just the way you are
And you don't have to change a thing, the world could change its heart
No scars to your beautiful, we're stars and we're beautiful
Oh-oh, oh-oh
And you don't have to change a thing, the world could change its heart
No scars to your beautiful, we're stars and we're beautiful"
(Caracciolo, Wansel, Tillman, Felder). 

Yet, again there is a hope, Jesus is your hope, my friend!  Romans 15:13 reads

"May the God of your hope so fill you with all joy and peace in believing [through the experience of your faith] that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound and be overflowing (blubbing over) with hope." ~ AMPC 

Thus, you can hope/trust that "you're beautiful just the way you are" remember Psalm 139:13-14 and what we discussed in Part 2? "God made you a one of a kind with unique gifts and abilities for the fulfillment of His purposes." This also pertains so closely to a declaration by Lisa Bevere,

"He knew each attribute would be expressed best through your feminine form. He knew you would represent and relate to Him best as a daughter" (2017). 

This statement profoundly affects me, and I hope sister that you feel it too! God knew that your personality, your abilities, your spiritual gifts, and your reflection of Christ would best be expressed through the beauty that is the female form. You don't have to change a thing, those of the world, they can change their hearts because God created you, His daughter, beautifully. 

So free yourself from seeking the approval of the world (Galatians 1:10), when you accept Jesus, you have the approval of the one true God, 

"All praise to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly realms because we are united with Christ. Even before he made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in his eyes. God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great pleasure." ~ Ephesians 1:3-5

"God planned for you carefully" (Life.Church 2017). You don't have to change a thing because through Jesus you are changed and made new, 

"being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus." ~ Philippians 1:6

You don't have to change a thing, God will meet you where you are at, but he will not leave you there. 

The Second Verse


"She has dreams to be an envy, so she's starving
You know, 
covergirls eat nothing
She says beauty is pain and there's beauty in everything
What's a little bit of hunger?
I could go a little while longer, she fades away
She don't see her perfect, she don't understand she's worth it
Or that beauty goes deeper than the surface
Oh, oh
So to all the girls that's hurting
Let me be your mirror, help you see a little bit clearer
The light that shines within" 
(Caracciolo, Wansel, Tillman, Felder).

In Dear Ladies, You are Astoundingly Beautiful Part 1 I said that "Comparison is the paradox of living more joyously and developing a positive self and body image." In the Bible, Paul also said that "godliness with contentment is great gain" ~ 1 Timothy 6:6. Still, being content with ourselves with our own appearance is hard in part because of the ubiquitousness of social media. The trouble is that, as Steven Furtick explains, "We compare our behind-the-scenes with other people's highlight reels" (2011). 

But, you don't have to "be an envy" you don't have to compete or compare. Yes, God loves everyone equally, but He also loves everyone uniquely. He loves you uniquely. As Lisa Bevere puts it, "He [God] didn’t have another daughter in mind when He fashioned you … you are His delight" (2017). 

Dear sister you have no rival in God's eyes! To grasp this valuable truth further begin the Lisa Bevere YouVersion Bible plan linked down below. 

"God values you highly" (Life.Church 2017) ~ 1 John 3:1-2. You, the unique daughter he formed lovingly. Nothing, not being thinner, being curvier, more makeup, more fashionable clothes, more social media friends or likes, or whatever can satisfy your desire for beauty and worth more than a relationship with Jesus, 

 ". . . [what] we can do is invest in our relationship with God. We can get to know him better, and through this, we can begin to understand our worth" (Bevere 2017).  

By the way, if you have been reading this Blog for awhile, you may know that I struggled with an eating disorder for many years. Verse two of this song is very personal; I will link all my posts on eating disorders down below as well.

The Bridge

"No better you than the you that you are (no better you than the you that you are)
No better life than the life we're living (no better life than the life we're living)
No better time for your shine, you're a star (no better time for your shine, you're a star)
Oh, you're beautiful, oh, you're beautiful"
(Caracciolo, Wansel, Tillman, Felder).

If you have read Dear Ladies, You are Astoundingly Beautiful Part 2then you may have already discovered your unique personality and spiritual gifts, thus trying to live "the story lines written for others will leave what God has written for you unfulfilled. Each and every one of us has a specific course and destiny" (Bevere 2017). 

I hope that quote speaks to you dear sister as it does to me, do not waste the life God has planned for you competing for what wasn't intended for you. There is "no better you than the you that you are."

You may have insecurities, we all do, however, when you begin to think of them, stop and think about your Words to Live By which we talked about in Dear Ladies, You are Astoundingly Beautiful Part 3. Remember who God says you who through Christ. You will stand far better against insecurities when you know whose you are and "Because there is no one like our God, there is no greater way to bring out what is unique in you than to pursue Him" (2017).  

Also, remember that there is "no better life than the life we're living" because "God provides for you fully" (Life.Church 2017). 

"And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus." ~Philippians 4:19

Finally dear friend, and I hope you take this to heart, to fully grasp your beauty you do not need more self-esteem, you need more Christ-esteem. 

Christ-Esteem

I want to end this post series with a prayer developed by Steven Furtick for the YouVersion Bible plan Crash the Chatterbox, 

"God, thank you for making me unique. You have a purpose for my life that far exceeds my own ability or expectation. Teach me to lean solely on what you say about me. In Jesus name" (2017). 

Yours Truly, LeNae

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Eating Disorder Resources 

7 Excellent Questions for Evaluating Information Online

38 Powerful Young Adult Books on Body Image and Eating Disorders

Eating Disorders: Recovery is Possible

How to Advocate Positive Media Influence on Body Image

How to Develop a Positive Healthy Body Image, Part 1

How to Develop a Positive Healthy Body Image, Part 2

How to Help a Friend with Eating and Body Image Issues

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What are Body Image and Eating Disorders, Really?

What Kesha Can Teach About Bravery and Seeking Help

When Can Healthy Eating and Exercise Be Dangerous?

Why Your Eating Disorder Is Holding You Back From Joy

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Caracciolo, Alessia, Andrew Wansel, Coleridge Tillman, Warren Felder. "Scars to Your Beautiful." Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Universal Music Publishing Group.

Eldredge, John and Stasi. 2005, 2010. Captivating. Nashville, Tennesse: Thomas Nelson. 

"Equally." Merriam-Webster.com. Accessed May 6, 2017. https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/equally.

Furtick, Steven. "Crash The Chatterbox." YouVersion Bible Plan. https://www.bible.com/reading-plans/891-crash-the-chatterbox/day/1#!. Date accessed May 1, 2017.

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Life.Church. Playlist Scars to Your Beautiful by Alessia Cara. https://www.life.church/watch/playlist/scars-to-your-beautiful/. Accessed May 5, 2017.

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